Topic is Sleeping.
torturedpoet (original poster member #85475) posted at 9:48 AM on Tuesday, February 18th, 2025
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leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 3:40 PM on Tuesday, February 18th, 2025
It's ok to give yourself grace and practice self-care. Anti-versaries are tough. My dday1 was in 2018, and this is the first year that I didn't feel depressed at the time of the anti-versary.
The first anti-versary, I wallowed in bed. I didn't even get dressed.
Taking a day to wallow is ok every once in a while. Just don't stay there.
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 4:20 PM on Tuesday, February 18th, 2025
My 1st antiversary was actually a relief.
OTOH, for the 22 weeks before the 1st antiversary (from the antiversary of the start of the PA to d-day), I was a wreck and very ineffective and unproductive.
Be kind to yourself. You are not out of line - and if you were, that would be OK, too.
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
d-day - 12/22/2010 Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
torturedpoet (original poster member #85475) posted at 9:08 PM on Tuesday, February 18th, 2025
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Chaos ( member #61031) posted at 12:49 AM on Wednesday, February 19th, 2025
It OK to give yourself a day to wallow. There is no shame in taking the time you need.
As long as you remember to stand back up.
ETA - hugs to you.
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BS-me/WH-4.5yrLTA Married 2+ decades-2 adult children. Multiple DDays w/same LAP until I told OBS 2018- Cease & Desist sent spring 2021 "Hello–My name is Chaos–You f***ed my husband-Prepare to Die!"
Topic is Sleeping.
