Mamacesto (original poster member #61938) posted at 2:15 AM on Friday, September 19th, 2025
Something very concerning to me! I thought these forums were "private" to members only? Just for kicks, I searched my username on the internet and was shocked when it brought up links to some of my posts in Surviving Infidelity!! Is there anyway to get those deleted?
Me - BW -51 (at time of A)
WH - 59 (at time of A)
OW - 42 (at time of A)
D-Day #1 EA/PA 10-02-17;
D-Day #2 EA 10-14-18
M - 24 yrs (at time of A)
...attempting R
OhItsYou ( member #84125) posted at 5:13 AM on Friday, September 19th, 2025
Not really. Search engine have bots that categorize everything. Even forums that are completely private, google has software that punches right through that.
Bigger ( Attaché #8354) posted at 12:51 PM on Friday, September 19th, 2025
As far as anonymity goes having a user name like Bigger on infidelity related sites makes it easy to hide in the immense forest of search-results!
I can share that the mods do veto some user names if they are considered too close to a possible real name. Like if the user name was John_Smith it would probably be refused.
"If, therefore, any be unhappy, let him remember that he is unhappy by reason of himself alone." Epictetus
torso1500 ( new member #83345) posted at 4:44 PM on Friday, September 19th, 2025
No the forum is not members-only private. You can read it while not logged into an account, so you can assume it is crawled and cached. Sorry you were under an incorrect impression. You can remove what you have written but unfortunately you may not be able to purge all cached evidence of your participation.
