We reconciled, but did my mind not?
I (23F) and my WS(32M) went through a very rough patch a single month after our wedding. D-Day was 10/23/2022. I got suspicious of things and texted WS ex to see if something was going on. I had asked they not communicate cause something felt off between them. I’m not the jealous type, he loved his exs child like his own and i understood. But when messages turned up missing i explained my emotions and asked NC begin.
Found out, emails, snapchats, tiktok chats were happening behind my back. Photos and videos shared. Money being spent to buy photos. A whole slew of things. It hurt me. Majorly. I wasn’t sure what to do. We separated for a month before we decided to wipe the slate clean and try again. I told him for it to work, i needed to know everything.
WS gave me small details. Story changing often. With AP being from the state WS is from, they made 1 opportunity to see each other when we were on a family vacation.
I asked about that night. WS said that he went there, saw her through the fence gate and left. Later changing it to they had talked for 5 minutes then he left. Then again changed it to they had a beer, he was there for 30-45 minutes. But swears nothing physical ever happened.
When pushed for more information I was told "You’re just hurting yourself, please stop asking." or "All it does is hurt you, i’ve told you everything i remember"
3 years later, a couple of mess ups that i have found since then. And I still am trying to amend things. Feel better.
I tell everyone we reconciled, and we did for the most part. But i’m unsure if my mind really gave everything back in or if my heart did. I fear that truths were kept from me. Do I truly need the full truth to continue? Or if i get a full or different truth, I’m scared reconciliation won’t be able to happen, because it’ll break me completely.
7 comments posted: Tuesday, November 11th, 2025
