LCol (original poster new member #84817) posted at 4:41 PM on Friday, May 31st, 2024
Thank you thank you everyone. He sent flowers to my house today with a message telling me that although us falling out on monday was my fault, he still loves me no matter what. With no mention of the assault. I am completely creeped out. Thank you for your support through this guys
Lalagirl ( member #14576) posted at 4:51 PM on Friday, May 31st, 2024
Is the restraining order in place? This is contact and should be reported to the police.
2025: Me-59 FWH-61 Married 41 years grown daughters- 41 & 37. 1 GS,11yo GD & 9yo GD (DD40); Five grands ages 15 to 8. D-day #1-1/06; D-day #2-3/07 Reconciled! Construction Complete. Astra inclinant, sed non obligant
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 4:51 PM on Friday, May 31st, 2024
Look up love bombing. He’s trying to convince you he has changed and/or gaslight you that it was your fault.
Don’t fall for it. These are cheap actions and aren’t worth the time it took to read the card.
Stay strong, and keep moving forward to get away from him and his abuse.
I found it helpful when I was feeling like caving in to create a list of ALL of his crimes, infidelities, abuses, lies. When I felt weak I would re-read it to remind me why I had to stay the course to get away.
This is hard and it is scary. But there is no other way to get away from him. Sending strength….
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 5:06 PM on Friday, May 31st, 2024
I hope you have kept the message and given a copy to your attorney.
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
crazyblindsided ( member #35215) posted at 6:04 PM on Friday, May 31st, 2024
He sent flowers to my house today with a message telling me that although us falling out on monday was my fault, he still loves me no matter what.
This guy is completely disordered he sounds just like my ex. He his blaming you for the incident omg 
Please make sure to stay no contact and get the restraining order.
[This message edited by crazyblindsided at 6:07 PM, Friday, May 31st]
fBS/fWS(me):52 Mad-hattered after DD (2008)
XWS:55 Serial Cheater, Diagnosed NPD
DD(22) DS(19)
XWS cheated the entire M spanning 19 years
Discovered D-Days 2006,2008,2012, False R 2014
Separated 9/2019; Divorced 8/2024
Wiseoldfool ( member #78413) posted at 3:04 PM on Saturday, June 1st, 2024
Thank you thank you everyone. He sent flowers to my house today with a message telling me that although us falling out on monday was my fault, he still loves me no matter what. With no mention of the assault. I am completely creeped out. Thank you for your support through this guys
This is your primitive brain giving you survival instructions.
Your life is in danger.
Get all the police, restraining orders, lawyers you can get. Do it now.
I’ve seen this movie before, too many times.
Your life is in danger.
Every secret you keep with your affair partner sustains the affair. Every lie you tell, every misunderstanding you permit, every deflection you pose, every omission you allow sustains the affair.
Tanner ( Guide #72235) posted at 12:54 AM on Wednesday, January 14th, 2026
Dday Sept 7 2019 doing well in R BH M 33 years
Hippo16 ( member #52440) posted at 2:18 AM on Wednesday, January 14th, 2026
LCol:
I hope you have found a way to a happy life without the Albatross that you married hanging around your neck.
Why didn't you file a police report on the whack to the head that put you down and damage to various body parts?
I do hope you are doing well now.
OOPS!! I see you did report and he was arrested. I hope you have stayed healthy in the interim.
Hoping for good news from you!
Also WiseOldFool summarized what you need to do. Don't want to read about you in the obituaries.
[This message edited by Hippo16 at 2:26 AM, Wednesday, January 14th]
There's no troubled marriage that can't be made worse with adultery."For a person with integrity, there is no possibility of being unhappy enough in your marriage to have an affair, but not unhappy enough to ask for divorce."
