Kim D (original poster member #16220) posted at 8:05 PM on Thursday, July 31st, 2025
I just don’t remember this last time but it’s seriously like the last 28 years meant nothing to him and he gets upset that I get upset 8n front of the kids 🙄
Me (BS): 32 (now 48)
FWH: 40 (now 56)
DDay: 3/14/07 (DDay 2: 7/16/25)
Finally moving on!
Shehawk ( member #68741) posted at 8:07 PM on Thursday, July 31st, 2025
So sorry you find yourself back. Many of us have experienced this. I just wanted to stop by and say that you have been heard. I am sure more people will be along soon to weigh in.
"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!
leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 9:32 PM on Thursday, July 31st, 2025
So sorry that you're dealing with this again. We'd been M over 30 years and I remember thinking, "I wasted my entire youth on you." I don't regret my children or where I'm at in life, but I do regret wasting so much time & energy on XWH.
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21
PurpleMoxie ( new member #86385) posted at 9:38 PM on Thursday, July 31st, 2025
I'm so sorry you are going through this. The cold attitude and demeanor is another layer of pain and heartache on top of the pain of the infidelity itself.
New profile. Previous, but not very active, member.
NoThanksForTheMemories ( member #83278) posted at 6:02 AM on Friday, August 1st, 2025
I'm so sorry that you've had a second dday after so many years. Too bad for him if you get upset in front of the kids. His choices have led to that.
WS had a 3 yr EA+PA from 2020-2022, and an EA 10 years ago (different AP). Dday1 Nov '22. Dday4 Sep '23. False R for 2.5 months. 30 years together. Living separately as of Mar '25.
Preacher ( new member #82852) posted at 1:44 PM on Friday, August 1st, 2025
It is incredible how cold and callous cheaters can become in their self-preservation mode. Like so many others have stated… I didn’t recognize my own wife!
So sorry you are going through this again, but on the bright side you now have a clear path forward. Praying you heal quickly & find renewed purpose and joy in life.
