Unhinged ( member #47977) posted at 3:38 PM on Saturday, April 11th, 2026
Sorry to read that, Rivers. I know you wanted to reconcile and stay married.
It seems you gave it your all and that's something you can always be proud of. No shame or failure on your part.
Best of luck to you moving forward.
Married 2005
D-Day April, 2015
Divorced May, 2022
"The Universe is not short on wake-up calls. We're just quick to hit the snooze button." -Brene Brown
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 11:37 PM on Saturday, April 11th, 2026
So sorry it came to this, but I really can’t wait to see your update in a year. I have a feeling your are going to be in such a better mind space. It is painful and rocky for a while more, but you deserve so much better. She really is a train wreck. Save yourself and your kids.
If you need support, the folks in the S/D forum are a great group who have been down this road.
Hang in there. — it will be better soon.
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
WoodThrush2 ( member #85057) posted at 6:16 AM on Monday, April 13th, 2026
I am very late to the game here. I skimmed through this thread and I almost feel sick about how abusive and manipulative this woman has been to you.
She has played you like a fiddle. I know you are caring and tender in heart, but it is time. I don't care what breadcrumb she tosses your way, you are NOT SAFE in that marriage.
Your counselors have done you absolutely no favors either.
Please, please, please end it with all of them yesterday. Show your children that you have dignity and refuse to be treated like trash.
You can rebuild with people of virtue.
God help you. 🙏
NukeZombie ( member #83543) posted at 5:27 PM on Wednesday, April 15th, 2026
Rivers,
Please update us when you have your WW served with divorce papers so we know you are making your way out of infidelity.
If you are still harboring doubts and hoping for some sort of miracle-- please reread this entire thread again from a 3rd person viewpoint. If a good friend had come to you and related everything you posted to you in a private conversation-- what would you tell him or her to do? What would you expect your friend to do?
You have not been in any meaningful or true and honest reconciliation. Instead of attempting to shoulder everything, end this sham of a marriage for the good of your daughters. Fully accept the responsibilities of being the best single dad with full primary custody of your daughters and fight for full custody. They deserve a sober and present parent in their lives.
Please keep us informed.
OhItsYou ( member #84125) posted at 6:15 PM on Wednesday, April 15th, 2026
You know what I think will help you? Stop thinking about how sucky the divorce will be and start thinking about all the higher quality women you’re going to date around with once the divorce is done. THINK towards the happier future, don’t mire yourself in what it takes to get there.
