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Just wait till perimenopause comes along, and then actual menopause. Aging, graying, grandchildren, illness. Each of these is just another potential hall pass you are ready to self deal.

This all shows the moral fiber of single ply gas station toilet paper.

Us betrayed males are real pieces of work suggesting that an adult had an ability to align their principles with their actions.

Wow! I didn't get to read all the posts because they are deleted. As a woman of a certain age, I'm kind of hurt by this. I haven't done anything that should group me in here. There are plenty of middle-aged men who have affairs. It's a popular stereotype. I haven't leaned into those.

I understand the hurt I guess. But reaching out to lash at all women is not very nice.

[This message edited by KitchenDepth5551 at 9:55 PM, Monday, June 22nd]

KD,

Wow! I didn't get to read all the posts because they are deleted. As a woman of a certain age, I'm kind of hurt by this. I haven't done anything that should group me in here. There are plenty of middle-aged men who have affairs. It's a popular stereotype. I haven't leaned into those.

I understand the hurt I guess. But reaching out to lash at all women is not very nice.

I could be off base here speaking for someone else, but I think I can confidently say that was not directed at all women or meant to lump all women together. I saw it as being specifically and sarcastically directed at Brew, saying that when she experiences those things she can have ready made excuses for further infidelity based solely on her logic and reasoning. I don't think it was meant to suggest anything about all women in general.

I know a lot of the generalizations and stereotypes I've heard or read about menopause don't apply to my wife. She doesn't feel bad about going through it at all, and it's turbo-charged her sex drive. She's actually really enjoying menopause. I think she feels better and sexier than ever, and I'm inclined to agree...

Kitchen my English is far from perfect so I may misunderstand, but I think what it says there is a different thing:

"If you are going to excuse your cheating going forward you will find many excuses to do it again such as…. List"
Nothing grounded, but excuses don’t need it, they can grasp at straws.

I understood it this way.

Betrayed Husbands are the one who cause me the most triggers. It still pisses me off that they don't attempt to understand what lifelong hormonal fluctuations, pregnancy and child bearing does to women to make them weak and vulnerable. They just don't get. Very very few women cheat because they are morally inferior any such bull. Most are exhausted and looking for any kind of relief and don't have the ability to resist it when it's presented to them. Many of those ones who don't respond by connecting to someone else (ie cheat) in these situations of serious loneliness and exhaustion are too scared to do so, or they have the insight to know it's not in their long term interest. I didn't have that insight in the moment of crisis.

This is what the comment was referring to, not stating it was acceptable.

I intended no general statements toward women in my comment. I was pointing out that this particular poster has other life changing events in her future that are sure to cause waves in her life, exactly the kinds of events that she wants to be considered as somehow excusing her multiple infidelities.

Thank you all for the clarification. I understand. Again, most of these comments are deleted in the post. It sounds like they were inflammatory.

Thanks InkHulk. Obviously, there are about 50% of us have no choice but to go through perimenopause and menopause. We don't all use it as an excuse as a hall pass. And not all men using aging as a hall pass. I appreciate your response.